>>9630645Everything is fleeting, but for some reason it's human nature for negative experiences to make more impact and to stick with us longer.
It's really an unfair balance. For me it was really helpful to consciously shine a light on the positive experiences in my day.
Every day for a week I sat down for an hour, with a list of positive traits I felt I have, and wrote as many stories I could think of that displayed any of those traits. After only a few days I was already noticing that I was able to put a positive spin on situations I was only able to see as negative before.
For example: doing a task at work I really struggled with. Before I could only blame myself for being stupid or clumsy, but afterwards I was able to see the positive trait of perseverance.
A lot of things are a matter of perspective and it takes effort to be able to see a different perspective but it might help lift your mood being able to see the positive sides.
>>9630653Do you also not feel anything when interacting with people/friends?
>>9630655Ehehe, I'm pretty bad at small talk myself
Even though I'm not where I want to be, I have improved greatly.
A few years ago I was terrified of even going grocery shopping, now I've been living on my own for a few years and taking care of myself.
Social skills are just that: skills. If you consciously try to improve, learn what works and what doesn't you'll get better at it.
A forgiving attitude goes a long way too, I'll bet that you're someone who's afraid to say something stupid or weird, it helps to realize that everyone makes social mistakes at times.
Be proud of the things that went well and learn from the things that didn't, without kicking your own ass
