The pattern I found in most people with really strange pervesions in that they never really had sex while they were growing up. They always found pleasure in other ways that they could enjoy by themselves (shitting/pissing, voyeurism/cuckism, self-harm/humiliation, young people, justo list some) and the more distance they put on other people and sexuality, the more they become deviants of it.

That whole press to get laid could indicate more than social tendencies, the society could be pushing for young people to have sex in order for them to develop a healthy sexuality.

So here we get to an interesting point, is that any way to develop a healthy sexuality after you own one is cemented? It seems like a part of yourself, your personality. You can't start anew but could still have some changes added to your preferences after you cement your core personality (late 20's).

Those are my thoughts, I would like to share them with you since I'm pretty sure there's too much deviants here.