>>1404713I've actually had guys try to rape me in my life unfortunately... But to be completely fair I evaded the situation and to this day have only had intercourse with one other person (my fiance) and can assure you with confidence of my sexuality. Part of this comfort-ability comes first from accepting one's self and multiple aspects in a way free from judgement and free from suppression. The sexual fantasies we experience can be used in positive ways to keep it fun and new with our partners, but you must first accept yourself however you may come and learn to be all that you can within your strengths/limitations.