>>1823505Your own opinion of yourself becomes a self fulfilling prophecy
When you talk to people you project your own view of yourself
How people perceive you is really just a mirror of how you perceive yourself
If you enter every conversation thinking that you're an awkward loser that nobody wants to talk to then that is exactly what you'll project. You'll talk in a quiet voice, you'll have low energy, you'll avoid speaking as much as possible.
People view you as a loser because you entered the conversation viewing yourself as a loser.
It is a completely self-fulfilling prophecy
People you've never met before have absolutely no way of knowing that you're a loser. If you enter a conversation with the self-view that you're a normal, confident person then that's what you'll project onto them and that's what they will think you are.
If you act confident then it makes other people feel more relaxed. The opposite is true if you act awkwardly. Most awkward conversations are not because you're saying something wrong, it's because you're acting like an awkward loser while saying something completely normal and making the other person feel weirded out.
