>>2839861Best to not ruminate on it.
Overanalyzing life leads to depression.
Silencing the part of the mind that talks/plans/worries leads to serenity.
I recall being in Asia, seeking meditative zen. I kept seeking out mountaintops to get away from people, but the difficulty of getting up them left me with little time to relax, and the insistence on being far removed made peace in daily life categorically impossible.
The most memorable moment of calm came one night when I drove down from a mountain and just rode through traffic on busy city streets focusing on only the helmet in front of me. One in particular, a woman with a white helmet with a little laser etched sticker in back shining as we drove through the turn of a large round about...
It was a pointless moment, analytically, but I'll remember it for many years. I found a piece of zen there that escaped me in nature.
When you have quieted your mind and entered the moment, the smallest details bring joy as to a child, because it is the happy child that has been buried by traumas and adult concerns. Relaxing is all that's needed.
