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This is all so tiresome. And sad. There are way too many boys who simply don't know how to be a man. They don't know the joy and power and ease of being a man. The reason for this, is that being a man, a mature man, is not obvious. Most boys now don't have a proper model for how to act. So they're let loose into a wilderness of possible behaviors. 99% of them will get them scorned and shunned and humiliated. So they get exhausted with this cycle and just retreat. They retreat to the safe behaviors of their childhood. Being neutered, quiet, polite, reserved, inactive, withdrawn, etc... That's the last developmental place they existed safely, and so they just don't know how to move forward without being humiliated again.
They desperately need someone to literally walk them along the path towards maturity. If their fathers weren't missing or spineless, they would have had this already. They would have had a proper understanding of what it's like to be a mature man. And they could have been practicing emulating that for the last decade, until they have a smooth and complete mastery over their own masculinity. Instead they've been stunted and left behind. Walking the path gets harder and harder as you get older. But it's always still possible. Even when you're 30+, you can still walk the path to maturity. What does that entail? Having control over your life. The ability to make income. The ability to attract a partner. Maybe the ability to pass on the knowledge to younger boys. God knows the world needs that right now.
I wish there was a big flashing sign pointing to this path. But there isn't. It's subtle. You could write a book about it I guess. People have tried. "Iron John" comes close in some areas. But the only real way to learn it is to see it in action. I mean, you can't learn to ski or rock climb or skateboard from a book. Only by seeing how the good people do it and then emulating it over and over until you get it yourself. That's what you need.
