>>1474468being a parent isn't about having control over someone, but having control over someone is part of being a parent, if that makes sense. and at a certain point you release that control and what they do with their lives at that point is up to them. as a parent you'd like to think that they'll be supportive as you age, but relying on it is selfish and foolish.
i concede that "contract" was a bit of a cold word to describe a marriage, but like it or not, that's what it is in a very clinical analysis. and it's voluntary, and you can leave it.
but if you have a kid, be there to raise that fucking kid. people who decide that their playtime is more important and die doing it, leaving children behind, make me literally sick. Literally literally, not figuratively literally.
fwiw i'm married with 2 kids and both parents still alive and retired and living close, and i see them at least once a week, usually more.
