>>2308996I completely sympathize with that anon, I've been there myself. You have to understand it's a particular type of autistic tendency (or something), but the way you're framing it betrays your misunderstanding of his perception altogether.
That girl didn't ask Anon out on a bunch of dates, she asked him to take her on a bunch of dates. There's a subtle but very distinct difference here regarding how indirect she's being. From Anon's perspective, the girl isn't asking him out, she's just making ephemeral suggestions about future possibilities. She never said, "Anon, let's go to the beach on Friday." She said, "Anon, you should take me to the beach sometime." To her, these are the same thing, but in the autistic mind of Anon, the latter is just something where he'll go, "Yeah, okay..." and then forget about it later.
No request was made, no dates were set, not even any suggestion of her own availability, she was just telling Anon that HE should make a plan and schedule it and ask her out and basically do everything, and he wasn't particularly motivated to make that type of plan so he never did it. He never found himself wanting to go to the beach, so he never had the opportunity to ask her to join him. Would he have been motivated by her directly saying, "Let's go to the beach, when are you free?" Yeah, he very well may have been, but that's not what she did.
I've been in similar situations myself. For example, a girl saying, "Next time you do X, you should invite me along," and then never happening to do X again and thus never inviting her along. Turns out, when she said that she actually meant, "I want to do X with you, please make a plan for this to happen so we can have a date." But the more passive style that puts the ball in my court is just taken literally by my autistic brain and so I would never think to make actual action toward it, I'm just thinking, "Yeah, if I HAPPEN to do X again I'll invite her along."
