>>2472153Hard to summarize this into 1 post as its a big topic but I'll try
So as explained already, one should avoid the alluring trap of trying to manipulate behavior and communication; instead focus on self transformation so you become a naturally attractive man with a proper core character, principles, values, integrity, virtue, competence, skills. This is the gist.
Imo 90% of success with girls is not by direct efforts ie approaching 10s and 100s of girls to learn how to tall to them (which pickup guys advocate with varying success. yes actual talking to girls to practice is needed too but is a much smaller part than building your core self, and will be made much easier by it.). Becoming an actual attractive man is done through the indirect route, which is working on yourself and getting to a point where you're not doing anything when talking to people yet you are being very attractive. To get women, dont focus on them, focus on yourself. The question now is, how to do this.
Internet and self help books are full of mediocre and shitty advice on this. Its often touted like some revolutionary new thing, some new method to become confident or whatnot etc.
In reality the truth about how to become a great man has been so important to mankind forever. Its no accident that religious texts and old wisdom are full of descriptions on how to be, how not to be, how the world works and how to align with it, etc. Both atheist evolutionary biologists and believers will agree that this was vital for our survival and thriving.
In short, the most on-point stuff on how to be is in old books and new books that talk about old wisdom. A lot of psychology too is on point when understood in proper context.
So where to look for good advice? Modern self help books? Nope. Spiritual/religious legacy and psychology? Yes. The latter are built on good accurate models of reality, thats why they've worked for milennia (psy. is ~150 years old but a lot of it is good and helpful.
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