How do I learn to think of gardening more positively? My mother had a garden and it was always my least favourite chore growing up, I would rather spend four hours doing dishes or literally anything else than spending four hours doing yardwork.

My girlfriend's parents brought us planters, dirt and seeds so we can have a potted garden on our balcony. I know they meant well and that she would like to have a yard with a garden of our own one day, but I have a hard time being grateful. We were just handed another household chore to do. Another responsibility to keep track of. I would not feel any different if they had brought in a bag full of dirty dishes or wet laundry "just in case you run out of things to do :)"

I know that my girlfriend wants us to have a food garden and to be self-sufficient on homegrown food, but since I work from home and she doesn't, I feel like the responsibility for tending for these plants that literally everyone except for myself wanted to have on our balcony is going to fall onto me. How do I look at them more positively than as another completely unnecessary and avoidable chore to do?