My partner wants to move to the middle of nowhere to live off-grid. I've always been the happier the bigger the city I am living in is, but he hates it. I don't notice the sounds of cars moving on the street any more than I notice the way my clothes feel against my skin, but he cannot filter them out. Any sight or sound of human life other than immediate friends or family is torture to him. The sound of a motorcycle driving by our apartment 4 floors below isn't just "background noise" to him, it's a torturous reminder that he is surrounded by society and cruelly deprived of the complete isolation of the wilderness.

He very clearly, can't adjust to living in a city to live the way I want, so I must be the one to adjust to living in the wilderness like he wants. He doesn't like cities because there's nothing to do here - none of the things one can do in a city are things he would want to do. I don't like the woods because there's nothing to do there - none of the things one can do in the woods are things I would want to do.

I'm not a fan of household chores. Folding laundry or washing dishes has never made me fondly sigh and wish I could spend all day like this. Adding more chores to my day - chopping wood, carrying water, doing whatever it is that solar panels require, all that - doesn't sound like positive additions to my life.

I don't enjoy being outdoors due to medical issues - I experience cold as physical pain, and I just don't like being in direct sunlight. If I had to build a fire to cook a meal every single time I should eat, I'm not going to be tempted enough to do a chore just to do another chore so I can do a third chore, and I'm just going to give up eating. I don't know how to respond more positively to the idea of a life that consists of nothing but doing a chore to do a chore to do a chore so you can do some other chore, so you can do the same things again tomorrow.

how do I do that?