>>388776Given the tone of your first reply I couldn't help but add a remark like that.
But anyways, we're on the same boat. I've spent my entire life packing up and leaving everyone and everything I know, I miss more people than I currently interact with. When others leave, I don't resent them; The difference between our mentality (and correct me if I'm wrong) is that I understand where these people are coming from. (even if I don't think like them)
Mentality is like politics, some people simply think about things in a fundamentally different way than other folks, and no matter how hard you try you simply will not change that opinion. People are wired differently and it's one of the things that makes us all unique and wonderful.
Just an example, (totally unrelated example at that)- I'm a climber, but I've got a friend who is mortified of oceans. He insists, beyond any and all debate and discussion, that there are more fatal mistakes that can be made on the ocean than can be made in the mountains. I completely disagree, but there isn't anything I can do to convince him otherwise.
Secondly, I'm not trying to say they "fall... into some sort of perverse downward spiral". Simply that when you dwell on something too long those emotions can exacerbate themselves, not that the person's entire life crumbles beneath them as their mental health deteriorates. Their specific thoughts towards a specific person is what I'm saying.
Honestly, we would probably be in complete agreement if you didn't use phrases like "then they're either overly attached to you or are just complete faggots". It has nothing to do with the connotations behind your specific word choice, but the extremity you prescribe to this opinion and the fact that it shows you aren't able to see things from another's perspective; Like I said, everyone is different and there are some things that everyone will never agree on. You've got to be able to deal with that if you want to participate in a society......
