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Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 16:57:13 No.691879 View View Reply Original Report

Quoted By: >>691989 >>692012

Hey /out/. I`m not really sure if this is the place, but anyway...

I used to be a fat fuck ( 90kg, 172cm), heavy smoker and lazy as shit. This was when i was 20 years old. Then I picked up running, hiking camping and climbing, stopped smoking, lost weight. I did that in 2-3 years and maintained it. Meanwhile I started dating a girl, and shit went down the drain. I started smoking again during a rough patch in the releationship. Gained weight (70kg now) and basically don`t have the will or motivation to do any sort of sport. I know I still LIKE doing it, because i occasionaly run or hike, but it`s like once a month. Also being nagged every time I hike with friends don`t help.

How the fuck do I get in that mindset again.
Also started smoking again, but weed this time.

tl;dr Lost mojo to do sports, became fat again. Advice on getting it back.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 17:37:04 No.691890 Report

Quoted By: >>691976

First steps is MGTOW.
Next it's time to start hanging out on /fit/
,read the sticky there.
Once your testosterone returns so will your will to live and your love of the /out/.

Good luck.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 18:50:03 No.691934 Report

Quoted By: >>691976

Being fat is a separate issue than being fit.

You'll lose a lot more weight watching your caloric intake and retraining what you consider a "normal" amount of food than you will exercising without considering your diet. And it will be more sustainable over your lifetime.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 20:38:22 No.691976 Report

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>>691934
I agree. I started eating shit again (fast foods, fucking 7 days, where i used to eat oats, lean meat and not drink so much...

>>691890
Maybe MGTOW is not a bad idea. The constant nag that I spend more time doing sports, instead of having a walk with her is a huge deterrent

10x for advice tho

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 20:58:28 No.691989 Report

Quoted By: >>692013 >>692027

>>691879
>Also being nagged every time I hike with friends don`t help.
Dude, you found the wrong woman. You gotta cut her loose if you want to be able to be yourself. That's what I finally had to do after about a year and a half after I married the wrong woman. Went through a few after that, then I found a good one and we've been together the last nine years. Looking back, I wonder how I let myself be so miserable for an entire year (the first six months with the ex wife were okay, then she started bitching about me pursuing my interests because they didn't interest her). Not marrying this one, neither of us want a piece of paper that could potentially fuck up the awesome thing we've got going. It might not, but the current system works just fine so why run the risk of breaking it? Granted, it's not all peaches and cream; life doesn't work that way, there will always be ups and downs. But we're happy together, and we share interests.

Tl;dr: ditch the bitch, find a better one later; you'll thank me some day.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 21:34:43 No.692012 Report

Quoted By: >>692014

>>691879

(1/2)
Well you've got to get to what sparked the backslide, which was your girlfriend, more or less. I know a lot of people would just say dump the girl, but I don't really think that's always necessary (though I'm sure it would help immensely if you were willing to).

I guess my first piece of advice would be to cut out things gradually to make the transition back to where you were easier. Quit smoking first. It won't be easy, but you've done it before and you can do it again. Once you're off of smoking, you'll feel a sense of accomplishment and it should (hopefully) motivate you to make healthy changes in other parts of your life, like losing weight. You can do that by going on more runs/hikes/etc., but you could also just start off doing small things, like another anon mentioned, watching what food you eat (Literally counting every calorie isn't always helpful, but keeping an honest log of what foods you eat every day can help. It's usually more about what kinds of food you put in your body rather than how much. My strong suggestion would be to look into paleo or keto if you haven't already.).

The healthier you get, the more you'll want to go do healthy things. And not even for the purpose of getting healthy. You'll just want to do those things because you're back in that mindset and it's second nature to you again.

Now for the girlfriend, to put it simply, she nags you because you let her nag you. She's learned over time that nagging is a good way for her to get her way. But you've got to start thinking about yourself sometimes, man. Do these healthy things for you. Most of them shouldn't be cause for her to nag, like quitting smoking and eating healthier. But when she does nag, like when you go out hiking or whatever, reanalyze the situation. Does she have a good reason to nag? Do you let her go out and do things she enjoys with friends or otherwise? Is this fair to you? Think about your answers to these. Screw her nagging.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 21:35:44 No.692013 Report

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>>691989
Yeah, I know a few people with your story and I really envy you guys.

My current gf used to hike a lot, but her knee is fucked up badly and she can barely hike for 2-3 hours before she can`t walk anymore from pain. I think she might be mad because I can do it. I try to take her to short hikes and /out/ places, but she never seems happy with it. I wonder if this could be the reason for the bitchiness.

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 21:36:03 No.692014 Report

Quoted By: >>692035

>>692012
(2/2)
You can try to reason with her, but girls aren't always so good with that. If she can't see on her own that it's not fair to nag you, then she's probably not gonna see it when you try showing it to her either. Tell her this is what you're going to do, and that she'll have plenty of time to spend with you outside of that.

So two things will happen. She'll either (1) wise up and realize that she can live with your new lifestyle changes, or (2) she won't be able to handle it, she'll throw a fit, and she'll dump you or force you to want to dump her. That second possibility might be tough if you're really into this girl, but you've got to look on the bright side. She's not the right girl for you if she won't accept the fact that you want to live a healthy life. There are plenty of other girls out there who will be happy to let you do those things. And at this point you'll be a lot more fit and healthy, so you shouldn't have to worry about getting a good one, as far as physical attraction goes. Just try not to make the same mistake twice and pick another girl who pushes you down the wrong path again. Hold out until you find her. In the meantime, get a dog (if you have the means, and if you don't already have one). They're not good for sex, but as far as everything else goes, they never nag and they make far better companions than most humans. And you can have fun with girls on the side.

This post ended up being way longer than I originally intended. I'm by no means an expert, but I do have experience being a fat lazy fuck who found motivation to turn his life around, get healthy, and do the things he already knew he loved but was too set in his bad habits, so there's my two cents. Hope some of this helped you or motivated you, Anon. Best of luck to you and your future endeavors. Let us know how it went when you're back on top again. I'll be looking /out/ for it.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 22:08:29 No.692027 Report

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>>691989
>Dude, you found the wrong woman.
They are all the wrong woman

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 19 Feb 2016 22:14:50 No.692035 Report

Quoted By:

>>692014

Good advice. The dog is my excuse to go to a hike or a run.

She doesn`t have lots of friends. She non-stop spams me with how much her friends suck, because of this and that. As I said in a previous post, she might be overcompensating for not being able to hike much nowdays and because I have some real close friends, which i think she lacks.

I`m really into her, we`ve been dating for 5 years now. I really want to see things through her point of view and help her, but it seems that might not happen soon, or ever.

Thank you, i really needed some advice and that feel of anon-push to get shit going. I`ll start making changes in my diet and workout routine, to get stuff going. Running and hiking are the real goal.

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