How do I take better pictures of myself. I found out that this is a bit of a skill.

I've noticed alot of people spending months to years focusing on this and getting better pictures for instagram ect. When you see them in person they just seem average at the most. (Some look nothing like these pictures in person)

I would like to learn how to take good images like pic related and get a good collection of pictures.

I always noticed I like the image I see in mirrors whether its gym or similar. When I take photo's (iphone 12 selfie camera) I get depressed and look like shit.

I've always seemed to get a positive reaction in person and people think I'm good looking (get mired, get complimented ect ect)

I take selfies with my iphone 12 and I always look like shit. I also never have put in effort into photography so I might be missing some stuff. All I know is when I take selfie pictures 1 out of 50 are good and the rest are pretty bad.

Is this because I'm ugly or am I retarded at photography?

I've always thought that men taking photo's all the time is gay but I gotto get with the times. I would like to take pictures like the image I've posted.

Is the mirror more accurate then a camera selfie. (I know its not because I keep seeing really fat gross girls and their social media makes them look sporty and nice and they're like the type of women you hide from your friends, like 130kg + and they don't look anything like their pictures.)

Just saying how do I learn the arts of photography? Is this the right place to ask?