>>16121356It isn't.
She's either an irresponsible roastie with poor life skills and decision making or a widow.
First one is always good reason to avoid marrying but even if she's a widow it's a bad idea because you'll always be held to the same standards as the ex she's grieving.
And unfortunately for you, absence for the ex makes her heart grow fonder but familiarity for you breeds contempt.
