>>8590600Lack of pressure by parents and a comfortable enough environment to coast by. Sometimes well off parents just throw money at their children and they end up being the equivalent of spoiled orphans. Sometimes the parents are fighting so much that they can never form a real plan to raise their children, and you compound the lack of parenting with the trauma of having fighting parents. The normal growth process is for a problem or crisis to emerge, a solution to be found and implemented, and the person stronger for overcoming it. Any time this process is disrupted, it hurts the person involved. A lot of girls are bix-tier because they have family and boys to solve all their problems for them, and no pressure to overcome anything.
I was raised like this. The worst part is you don't realize how much damage has been done to you. If anything, your parents trick you into thinking you're lucky and privileged to have not lived a proper life. You can get over this with a year or so of effort. I lost weight and hit the weights. Got a license. Drew dimes. If any anons are living like this, you can get over it if you try. I think the biggest determinant in whether you can succeed is if you can see the future lucidity and picture some light at the end of the tunnel, or if you immediately shut your mind off in pity, fear, and anxiety any time you're asked to think about your life. It's easy to get in this pattern of shutting off your mind whenever problems arise and then sitting around all day saying you don't have the energy to do anything, and you'll just do it later.
