>>10053922It’s also the blatant attention-seeking with 2 different names that gets grating and erodes my sympathies to a point.
Co-dependent mentally unstable woman moves in with a /toy/ namefag who was last relevant around a decade ago, his sedentary lifestyle and older age (oh boy another age gap relationship!) eventually lead to poor health and an early death, she makes frequent “remembrance threads” for her dead husband that are framed as romantic but are in reality just a sign of an inability to form an identity not defined by a partner.
I know that what I’m saying sounds harsh, but I’ve gone through a lot of family losses myself in the past 2 years, and nobody else will probably say this as upfront or blunt as I will and it needs to be said.
You were 100% dependent on this guy physically emotionally and financially, and now you’re struggling to function as an individual again.
One of the few good things feminism did was freeing women from the social norm of widowhood if their husband died unexpectedly, even in our ostensibly egalitarian current society, so many women still struggle with defining themselves through men.
If you want to keep posting with a name, don’t be “Mrs. Ghostal“, make your own identity, independent of your late husband’s. And post your own toys, not his.
