>>15812to achieve this state of no worries, do all of the things i list now.
show her you apprecciate her. even if she´s just a random girl you happen to fuck. she´s there, she´s ready to be with you, give you her full attention, give you pleasure. apprecciate that.
giv her compliments when you feel like she´s selfconscious about something tell her you love the smell of her pussy (obviously only say so if it´s true. if she smells bad, this hole thing won´t work and you would have to talk to her about this). if you feel like she worries about her small boobs, give them special attention and tell her how horny it makes to touch them.
make her see that you are enjoying yourself.
never ask "are you close". it will put instant pressure on her, some girl lose an orgams the second you ask that. some lose it completely and won´t be able to cum anymore that session. you will learn to read her so you can tell on your own if she´s close or not.
put on some music. some girls feel obligated to moan to show you they are enjoying what you´re doing. but when masturbating, most girls actually get really quiet when they are close. music will help take pressure off of her to "fill the silence".
make her feel that, even if she doesn´t cum, it´s no big deal. the goal is not, her cumming, but just giving her pleasure for the sake of it.
she should be selfish for this moment. it´s all about her and her pleasure. you will get your fair share too, guaranteed. but let her have that moment
keep in mind that the average girl takes 20 minutes to cum. that is PRETTY long if you finger or lick someone. don´t rush. be patient and consisten.