>>43689653I mean if he doesn't love himself unconditionally, improving himself probably won't change that.
Based on everything I know, whether you love yourself isn't dependent on external factors. You can be a highly paid, highly respected exec with a loving family and feel like you're a piece of shit; you can be a cripple and be completely at peace with yourself and the world.
If you lack love for yourself, self-improvements are probably just gonna trigger feelings like "it's working, but someone like me doesn't deserve this, I should stop" or "wtf am I even trying to do, I'm an unredeemable asshole, none of this will change that"
I think it would probably be more productive to look into what ego is, where it comes from, what increases it, what diminishes it. When did you start to feel like you're bottom-of-the-barrel scum, how can you isolate those feelings and treat them as a part of you that you can heed or ignore. Usually you're not born with this shit, you learn it, and it grows into a maladaptation.
Get a grip on how your brain works basically.
A Garde would honestly probably be pretty useful for figuring that stuff out. Psyche and emotions would probably be second nature to them.
