>>42948710I was for a time being, however upon confronting her about my viewpoints she rationalized her viewpoints and then ultimately accepted some faults in defense that she simply did the best she could in the situations and information presented to her. She at least gave me the respect of an adult human equal, which I can respect and likewise forgive. If she were likewise to the Man she married and subsequently left, then I'd view her likewise as I do him.It is a curious thing narcissists, you could catch them with their hands covered in blood, but they'll blame literally everyone and everything else for the blood on their hands, even the ones they've hurt. They are incapable of truly assigning blame onto themselves. They'll hide in the recesses of denial, whether it be through outright deciet, a false sense of religious devotion that absolves them of Sin, or simply refusing the reality around them. This is why I cannot come to terms with my father; it is simply because he is not able to comprehend such a concept of self assignment beyond his own Ego defense. He is without personal commitment to his own SIn. There is no negotiation with someone like that, especially if you do not mirror said philosophies or viewpoints.
Which is ultimately more so ironic, because such attachment to Ego and Identity will result in an awful suffering in Death; something I wish he'd realize before he does so within the next 20 years before he meets his own. 