>>37968963Thanks!
The hardest part about finding real nerds, I think, is that they really don't get out much, and that there's a lot of inconsistency and variety in what they do get out for.
Finding events for stuff can be pretty fruitful, but, especially if you are a guy looking for a girl, those events themselves aren't the best time to make a move. Girls that even attend that kind of stuff have a natural reflex to resist and avoid any advances made on them in such settings, and that's if they haven't been pressured out entirely
A little bit of visual flair can be a counter-balance to this. Wear a pokemon pin (Ideally not from the original 151), or maybe a character from a non-mainstream anime. Female characters are fine, but avoid the overly-waifu'd. Magic the Gathering is also a good signal
If you aren't against dating sites, don't be afraid to pepper your profile with that stuff.
I think, probably the biggest thing, from what you display to how you carry yourself, is to put friendship and interest in the activity first.
If me and my wife didn't have the interests we did, it would have probably been much more difficult, if not impossible to really develop the relationship we have.
The reason she eventually agreed to marry me, I think, is because of the history we have together. She was able to trust that I really loved her, wasn't settling, and that I really, really meant it because of the genuine fun we've had together, completely separate from our "relationship", and that I wanted to spend time with her, just as the person I like to do things with.
Don't forget that girls are people too. All of the things boy nerds worry and angst about, girl nerds do, too, and that boy nerds self-destruct all the time. All the mistrust and suspicion that anyone could really like them, all the plain social ineptitude that makes basic things like saying how you're feeling difficult, all the fear and terror about doing any little thing that will make someone not like you.
