>>39418870You just reminded me of something. Around five years ago I was going some small courses in a place near my home. The place was run by a big, flamboyant man, and his tall and slim obviously gay male secretary. The big man would also work as a teacher there, and several times he referred to the secretary as his "son", but said guy had also mentioned before something about his parents living far away, in a poor area. Turns out this man once had this other guy as his student and his story was so sad to him that he adopted him, and treated him the same as his other biological children. We all thought it was such a nice and kind gesture, a 50 y/o dude adopting someone almost in his 30s to give him another chance at life.
Around a year after I finished my courses, I stumbled upon the secretary on the street, and we talked for a bit. The conversation got deeper and he eventually opened up about how hard it was for him to find a couple because every bf he had eventually cheated on him, and he trusted again, and they cheated again, and so forth. Said he just wanted real love but "thanks to this dependent personality I have because of him I'll always keep going back to cheaters and get my heart broken". "Him?", "Yeah, Adrian" (his "dad"), "What about him?", "Don't you know? Ah, that's right, he'd never let anyone know.. He was my lover for a long time, but always in secret. The whole adoption thing was an excuse to keep me closer, to control me, and when things got sour and I wanted to go away he threatened me to stick around or else, so I had to keep up the whole son façade with him". His mother had cancer and this guy told him that if he ever left, or told his secret, he'd kick him out and keep what little money he had so his mom wouldn't be able to afford her medicine. "If your mother dies it'll be your fault for not loving me".
So yeah, a man who was constantly "I love my son, he's so beautiful" was actually abusing him and I think it's fucked.
