>>43212470Something similar happened to me. My school had uniforms, and I was the kind of kid/pre-teen who used her socks up high, tucked her shirt in, and liked her hair up in ponytail. I looked geeky as hell, but I loved looking so "clean" and formal. But one day when I was 12 some friends came up to me and gave me an "intervention", because they said boys didn't like formal girls and preferred them "wild" (yes, all this at 12, my school was kinda fucked up and kids literally started having sex as early and 10, I wish I was joking). They took my shirt out of my skirt, pulled down my socks, unbuttoned my shirt, undid my ponytail and messed up my hair, told me to be "free". They kept coercing me into being very vulgar, to use as many swear words as I could, and I did, but deep down I hated it. I tried going back to my ways but I kept being bullied by them and was too polite to just say no, too weak, so I kept complying and acting like a raunchy cunt. Even my mom didn't understand how I went from this innocent child to this sailor little shit.
It was at 16-17 that I decided to screw them and just start acting and dressing how I want, which is this overly polite girl who likes wearing smart attires, black, white, cream, grey, very neutral colors, and who almost never swears. Funnily enough all those girls became Twitter feminazis who "hate all men" and are super violent and hostile, and many actually went to those "let's set everything on fire" protests.
Another thing which amused me, is how in your country feminine is seen as good (reason you got harassed, for not fitting into that), whereas here (Argentina) feminity is seen as being the literal devil. Like if you like being a feminine woman that automatically means you bend over to the patriarchy and your mere existence oppresses others.
So yeah, back to the point, I like that radfems advocate for being however you want and just be happy, which I wished I had done before. Those years are a black stain in my life.
