>>44729299Based, men don't want to admit it but this is the correct attitude to take. Unlike
>>44726547 who deludes himself thinking that a "good" woman would love him as he is. It's not being superficial, it's being realistic, if a girl puts so much effort and care into herself then why would she be with someone who isn't the same? Who's a slob that can't provide anything meaningful and that she'll have to maintain and pamper because he couldn't himself? She's not there to deal with your lazy attitude, to be your "mommy" or therapist who'll take care of you and magically make everything better like some fairy. You have to do that yourself, you have to prove you're worth it.
If you want a good girl, be a good man yourself, don't expect people to settle. I know that there's things like inherent flaws that can't be fixed, and yes, those should be overlooked if you love the person, but here we're talking about things one can change, like fitness level, healthy habits, overall presentation, etc. And no, I'm not giving girls a pass or anything because this also works the other way, if you want a good man, be a good woman yourself. Don't be a dirty neet yourself and expect prince charming to come swoop you up.
So I'm proud of you anon, doesn't matter who motivated you, it'll never be "cringe" because what matters is that you got motivated in the first place.
