>>44875636I have a BPD (that's borderline, not bipolar) mother, what this means is that she thinks that any single action you do without her, no matter how small, means you want to be independent and therefore "be away from her" because "you don't love her". Something as simple as wanting to go to the supermarket yourself, or telling her she doesn't need to drive you everywhere now that you're in your 20s, that in fact it'd be better if you learned how to drive yourself. Every single action that may be interpreted as you wanting to become independent is seen as a threat of abandonment, and is enough to make her go from the most loving human being to exist, to literally Lusamine.
