>>47315478Alright, your prostate is, depending a bit, using your index finger, about two knuckles in, towards your belly. Just touching it once isn't going to give you like an "oh", but it WILL feel a little bit "squishier" to your finger. That's what you're aiming for, the rest of your ass is a distraction, unless it's your fetish, the anus itself IS sensitive, rimming is great.
You want gentle, steady kneading and massaging of that spot; every thrust should be made with that spot in mind. For me, on a dildo, I find angling down early in the thrust, then kinda gliding out to more level to be the best strategy, but this may vary based on your choice of toy, your own flexibility, ext. You are NOT just hammering away as hard as you can, without a toy specially designed for that, basic phallic shapes are NOT optimized for it.
It takes discipline to keep a good rhythm going, while also emptying your mind enough to really just enjoy and accept what you're feeling.
If you start feeling "hot" either in your groin or along your penis, you're doing it right, or if your legs start shaking.
Don't be discouraged if you lose it, just try again another time. There's a mastery requirement to the prostate orgasm, both as the actor and as the actee, and having to do both makes it a bit harder, but it's doable with hard work and practice. One of the most consistent ways to fuck it up is to be too aggro or perfectionist; P-gasms come the most when you are just feeling good, accepting the sensations, and releasing control of yourself, I find.
Personally, I find some nice, rhythmic music really helps me keep pace even when my mind is on another planet.
Also, you need lube. More, don't skimp.
The hardest one is always your first, you don't know what to expect, and are often trying to "feel" what you know to be an orgasm, when it's a completely different feeling, and trying too hard to get there, when the secret is in accepting the journey.
Also, kegels. Practice those.
