>>52236814I'm sorry to read your story. My father was very rigid with me. I can't call it abuse, not even bad parenting, he was just very rigid. He was in the military and in Opus Dei (a traditional Catholic org that a rigid code). I was always very lazy so we had clashes. When I graduated I took 6 months before I began job searching because I was stressed with college and my mother had passed away, so I gave myself 6 months to rest and play vidya. Life was hell though because every day he'd scream at me because I didn't job search. You see, he didn't respect me because he saw me as a child, and you know what anon, he was right! Staying NEET at home playing Pokemon is something only children (should) do.
Eventually I found a job, moved out of his house. To reposition myself as an adult and not his kid anymore, I refused help and did everything on my own. After around a year without asking for help, getting a job, living on my own and getting promoted, it finally "clicked" with him and he started respecting me. That was years ago and our relationship is good today.
My advice is this: change yourself, only that will change him. And even if he never changes, at least you will be far and independent, so he will not be much of a problem for you anyway.
You say your area sucks for money opportunities? Well you're on the internet, learn some digital skills and get some online jobs. Digital ads, programming, design, data analysis, business intelligence, pick a discipline and try studying it. Or move to another place, or find something where you are that pays well - a government job, maybe? It doesn't matter, what matter is - start moving, do something, never stop trying to be independent, there's always something else to try, so don't give up.
I hope you make it, because I did and it's good anon
