>>52919646My bf is also autistic and never had a gf until he was 25. (Been dating for 6 years now)
Yes the world is scary. Other people are scary. If you think women are scary, how do you think women feel about men? Men are even scarier because most of them are more powerful than women. If they want to harm a woman, most men can very easily do so.
Why do you think there's always more men on dating websites/apps than women? Insecure betas who listen to too many misogynistic ecelebs will blabber something about how women are superficial whores who only pick the top 10% of men or other nonsense like that. The truth is that, while the average male user is completely harmless of course, there's a small portion of men who are malicious, only want sex or are just downright dangerous. Eventually, a lot of women stop using such services because the risk of running into such men is just not worth it. It's tiring to look for red flags, to worry every single time you meet a stranger that they could hurt you. Just one bad experience with a clingy and/or aggressive man is enough to ruin everything.
Fact is, the world is scary because some people out there are evil. That's why we close our hearts in fear of getting hurt (again). Only thing we can do it carefully reach out to others and slowly open up to them, show them that you mean no harm. If they feel the same, they'll reciprocate it. It needs a lot of courage, and yes, you might get hurt in the process. But every reward has its risk.
I know everyone rolls their eyes at "just be yourself", but it truly is the best advice if you want to find a partner or even just a friend (all partnerships start as a friendship anyway if you ask me). What's the point of pretending to be someone else? Even if they start liking you, they would like the fake-you, not who you really are. No one ends up happy in this situation, you know?
As long as you're well groomed, can dress ok and aren't born extremely deformed/hideous, looks don't matter.
