>>54204787your obsession with the concept of a chad is what's holding you back
if you want a woman to be attracted to you, you need to let go of your insecurities, be hygienic, and just act genuine and friendly toward others. even if you were the most attractive person on the planet, not every woman is going to be attracted to you simply because women have varied tastes in partners the same way everyone else does.
hell, I'm not really attractive, confident, nor am I in good shape but I've still had multiple attractive women confess to me simply because I've made sure to treat them with genuine respect instead of treating our relationship like a means to an end.
the problem most people have (even ones that actually do get success in relationships) is that they're obsessed more with the idea of getting into a relationship and experiencing that kind of intimacy than the quality and bond of the relationship itself.
it's one of the reasons divorce rates are so high: people get with people that they have no real common ground with on a whim and rush into relationships then when the honeymoon phase inevitably fizzles out, they realize that there's no real basis for a proper bond because they had no really connection with one-another besides physical attraction and an adequate amount of chemistry.
find a friend first and foremost, and if you end up forming a deep enough connection for it to blossom into romance, then congrats. if not, then don't treat it like the end of the world.
