>>57331571You're half right. I think judging people for experiencing emotions is dumb but it's absolutely reasonable to judge people for allowing that to make them vulnerable.
Ultimately righteousness doesn't come into the situation in the OP - I doubt there's anything that could really make that sentimentality attractive to his girlfriend in the short term. Other people are free to respond to you and your choices in any way, but it's your choice whether that freedom other people has makes you dependent and vulnerable.
And I am extremely judgemental about my own imperfections to a standard I don't hold anyone else too - I'm not perfect, and every time I'm reminded of all of the aspects of myself that I haven't had the time or proficiency to improve it genuinely gets under my skin. The standard I have for others is a mirror of the standards I have for myself.
>>57331670>weakness isn't something inherentlyIt's not necessarily weakness on it's own that's the problem, it's people who casually accept their own weaknesses.
Like for example I once knew someone who burst into tears upon hearing the word "slug". I have no idea what trauma might have caused that but I don't think I'd be able to wake up on a morning without feeling disgusted with myself if I had such little control over my emotions.
I'll frame it this way to keep things at least incidentally pokemon related. Strong teams depend on the interactions between pokemon rather than the pokemon themselves being individually strong. Depending on a support isn't a weakness, and it's not a weakness to function best in the role of support.
But the strength you get through synergy has to be balanced against the fact depending on others inherently adds more points of failure. It's a tradeoff that in some instances is good value and in others is bad.
Being unable to make that decision impartially - either because you can't work alone or you can't work with others - is weakness.
