>>58630741your anecdotal experiences aren't absolute, and you're a moron if you believe taking care of yourself is the reason why you're attractive and not just your natural appearance determined by your genetics. i take fine care of myself, but good hygiene isn't going to suddenly morph one's bone structure or facial features into those of a more attractive man. you'll look presentable, sure, but looking "presentable" or "not abnormal" isn't the same as looking GOOD. it helps, but it's nothing that'll change much.
>you're not desired because you're a shut-in who doesn't take care of himself.do you really think that people who received sufficient amounts of positive social reinforcement growing up or in their daily life would just suddenly become shut-ins and stop taking care of themselves out of nowhere? barring exceptional cases like trauma, people generally become self-neglecting shut-ins because they no longer have a reason to spend energy putting work into their appearance. as in, there's a reason they're like that, and it isn't because they're actually really well liked but just stopped taking care of themselves for shits and giggles. shut-ins only get that way when there's nobody they need to present themselves to, when it wouldn't make a difference. it is almost always the former case of people who give up when they realize they're never really going to be able to properly relate to others and they've never been desired by anyone.
>humblebraggingyou're a person that was born attractive and lacks the theory of mind necessary to understand not everyone is a shower away from being desirable. seriously, getting approached isn't ordinary, or at least it's never happened to me and most men my age. you're out of touch with society, which i wouldn't mind if you weren't peddling "just smile 10 times a day bro" bullshit