>>29201010i understand what you mean. it's easy to get much too fixated on your internal image of what a person is like, though. we spend a lot of time with her and get to see many aspects of her personality, but at the end of the day it's one-sided we only see the sides of her that she chooses to present to us, so our image is bound to be off in some aspects. i don't think she is an entirely different person behind the scenes, but there will inevitably be parts of her that she chooses not to show to the public that you may or may not approve of. but i guess you know all that, i'm just saying you are kind of setting yourself up for disappointment by fixating on your idea of her, i know i've fallen into the same trap before. i guess my point is that her diverging from your idea of her at some point is kind of inevitable, but it doesn't necessarily invalidate everything she did before, you know, it's not a black and white thing.
