>>76714370You'd be surprised. A lot of people have no idea how to lead or moderate or communicate without just making a list of rules as their first measure. Just look at his first rule: he will be timing all turns. Fuck no he won't, that's a lot of work and prone to mistakes and not appropriate in some situations; it would be much simpler to go by rule of thumb and people just suck it up, but he doesn't want his decisions questioned (you had 60 seconds, I timed it, it's not my fault). This is a huge red flag that he's dysfunctional and starts conflicts, but he "hates conflict" and can't stand up for himself without throwing a tantrum.
If somebody brings a snack for themselves, they're out of the group? Yeah, I'm sure there's no situation where will end up being retarded. You can already smell the answer a mile away if somebody's sick or needs to take medication or something: "you should have known better than to schedule a session if you couldn't follow the rules." Get that ass banned. Why don't they just order food for the session if it's a recurring problem?
Easy, because that's not a rule. He likes rules. Rules empower him.
