>>22032190nta or a femanon but no, it's just like wanting to date an anime character. you don't wanna date their voice actor you wanna date the character. except the character doesn't exist so you just keep it to your fantasies and don't let those thoughts fill you with a sense of longing or whatever. whether my oshi's real life has a boyfriend or is a virgin or whatever is irrelevant to me since the person behind the avatar is completely different from their on-screen persona.
just channeling those desires for your oshi towards positive thoughts like writing fanfics or creating fanart is much better than lamenting the fact you'll never meet their VA in real life.
