>>58673522>I feel like the only way to meet her is to constantly force myself to do stuff I don't like at all and hope she decides to do the same for no reasonI reached a breaking point recently, because of this exact kind of stuff, too. There's one mental health youtube channel I watch, and have been in the discord of, and everything else they've talked about has actually helped me immensely, but at some point I forgot one of the video she did was how therapists can't actually help you get a girlfriend, and that it's basically an impossible task. I then wound up following the advice I saw there, of things like
>go to bars>go to clubs (like a book club, not a night club)>go to meetups>work on yourself>become a regular at placesand a whole slew of other shit, and after over a year of doing so, with stuff like fighting games, this one bar/restaraunt/music venue I like, even going to animal shelters where there are actually women, it just went nowhere. Despite eventually being someone people looked forward to seeing at the locals, because I'd bring a really nice setup and fun weird niche games, I only really made one acquaintance there, and he and I have already fallen out of contact since I got sick of fighting games and decided to stop going. The girls at the cat place I could never get to actually talk about anything besides themselves, or complaining about shit, and when she used terms like "coded" and slathered praise onto the Barbie movie, I just kinda checked out and stopped going. There was a cute bartender girl at the music venue, and she seemed interested, but she stopped working on the days I showed up, and also I saw a ring on her left ring finger. That coupled with the fact that just being nice to dudes is part of her job, I didn't bother. And all the women there were close to twice my age, which, again, I'm basically 30. I really should not be the youngest guy at any social function I go to, but I always am.
I've got hobbies, projects, and two genuine (physically far away) friends (that I talk to online regularly), and I live a pretty good life overall. Like, to return the favor of what you said, I know how this'll sound since I'm some pathetic loner posting on /vt/ for a reason, but I doubt anyone would see me IRL and expect me to have close to five grand just sitting in the bank, and genuine business prospects in the future, but that's the kind of position I'm in. Even my job is really low stress, so I'm free to just work on shit throughout the day, but all of that feels kind of moot after all this. I've been "going out" for like around a year now, but I've been "working on myself" for at least seven, at this point. And by all accounts I did actually "make it" too. But I've wound up just kind of at a dead end, come to terms with the advice I've had being utter shit, and acknowledging my time is better spent just messing around with solo stuff I enjoy, and working on my pursuits.
