>>78390753The difficult reality is that a lot of people would make very good life partners for a lot of people. Human beings are remarkably compatible so long as they were raised with similar traditions and priorities. In old days people would look for someone with similar skills or who was familiar with their craft, but due to a combination of industrialization and the absolute oversaturation of free knowledge those aspects are worth a lot less than they used to be. It would be someone's lifelong skill to sew shirts or carve wood but you can do either of those to a level satisfactory to most peasants with about $200 of tools and a few hours of video tutorials. Now that we've broken down the skill based matchmaking entry barrier everything is dependent on attitude and culture, and most people exist on pretty similar levels to each other at least in north America. It doesn't look like it if you just read the news, but most people are actually good and most people are willing to compromise and learn new skills to fill the gaps in our now neglected non-skill based matches. People are remarkably good at adapting to each other if they really want to try, they need to try, but most people these days really do want to try. Just walking through a mall you pass by probably 3 or 4 people who would be totally fine life partners per minute. The truth of the matter is that people don't want fine life partners they want great ones, and those pass by at around the rate of 0.2 per minute walking through a mall. The sheer overwhelming amount of choice makes committing to people difficult but the fear of being left with a sub par option also makes for a paralyzing sense of desperation. I don't want to tell people to lower their standards cause that isn't the answer, but knowing what to actually prioritize is difficult when every shortcoming in your brain is supposed to be normalized and you aren't supposed to talk about it. We live in a difficult age.
