>>88833892It gave some brainworns. Hard to wrap my head around it. To me, because of life experiences, can't fathom having unconditional love for people who's love in turn is conditional, that's a recipe for abuse, which seems to be the case.
When I broke free from my parents, after cutting contact for 2 years, when I came back I laid my terms plainly on the table: They weren't entitled to me or my time, if they made me feel uncomfortable, angry or insulted, I'd simply remove myself from their lifes once again.
They though I was buffing, but after they tested my words and lost of privilege of my contact for another 6 months, they understood. Frankly, they didn't deserve even than from me, but I'm not such a heartless bastard that I'd disown my parents forever, but keeping clears terms of engagement was necessary for my sanity.
Point is Jelly shouldn't be miserable for the sake of her parents. She's an adult, she's her own person, living her own life. If her parents and her parents and in the way of that, then they are the problem, not her.
