>>88487734When will society realize that the inherent bias against incels struggling with dating cripples our ability to understand love, relationships, and connection on a deeper level? You can lie and cope all you want that incels are just "entitled" or "unworthy," but that still doesn’t account for the societal structures that leave so many of them alienated and unsupported. The most common response when this is brought up is, "Just get out there and date," but this is itself a dismissive deflection because everyone knows that the dating world is biased in favor of superficial attributes rather than introspection and connection as it ought to be. If it were, and if men who take time to develop confidence and communication were not immediately judged, then maybe things would change. The sheer vitriol and disrespect thrown toward men who struggle with dating, along with the constant narrative of "just try harder," means there is literally no space for even the most well-meaning, introspective, loyal guys to find belonging in a society that mocks or dismisses them at every turn. No one has any solution to this systemic misandry, and if we're being honest, it’s upsetting that the loneliness experienced by so many of these men is constantly met with blame and ridicule rather than compassion. Is it just human nature to idealize superficial attraction and then retroactively justify it as "investment" in a partner, while ignoring anyone who doesn’t initially meet these ideals? Why is this connection and understanding afforded to others who fit a more idealized image, but not to men who don’t meet these arbitrary standards? I've never gotten a clear answer, and to be perfectly real with you, I think the stagnation of human relationships will only continue until society unanimously arrives at the consensus that they fucked up by placing attractiveness on a pedestal in the dating world.
