>>94410265To capstone this (and bury the hatchet)
I never said findom couldn't be enjoyed in fantasy or that it was more or less "bad" than others. What I said is that findom should be scrutinized (and avoided, I'll get into reasoning for avoiding at the end) in reality because it's a slippery slope of playing into the sub's desires/insecurities (that are intentionally and inherently exploitative) that is very easy to turn into the "bad" kind of findom in the desire for "pushing boundaries" or "the next rush;" from the dom's perspective, "free" money from another person is hard to turn down for many, especially when the dom can dehumanize the sub (easy to do with the distance the internet provides the relationship and a divestment in morals) and never have to actually see the negative consequences. This, combined with the ease of execution (just open Venmo) makes it more dangerous than something that requires a lot of setup comparatively like your example of loli; path of least resistance, etc.
Ease of execution ties in with the lack of visible consequences for going too far to create the situation where morals/responsibility go out the window; very few people would look at the situation ("say/type words, collect money") and not be at least *tempted* to abuse it because of how easy it is vs. other sources of income.
As a precautionary approach, I always think it's better to avoid the temptation and danger outright; I quite like the VAllure we have now and don't want even the smallest chance of it being tarnished by having a "findom abuse of fans" yab hurting growth. To use a metaphor, we fill as many holes in the boat as possible before going out to sea because each tiny pinhole can sink us.
Am I overzealous with the desire for risk mitigation? Yes, but it's because what we have now in VAllure matters a LOT to me as-is and I don't want it to end for a long while; "why risk it?" etc.The reason I considered it a "personal attack" is that you never supported your points before this post, always just a "no" or "you're wrong" with no elaboration. Considering where we are (and the fact I can't read your tone nor intent via text), it read like low-effort trolling. Combined with me seeing someone *actually* hates me (apparently) in the post you replied to, I was on the defensive to begin with.
Clarifying intent and taking a step back goes a long way. I apologize for being a sperg about it, but you haven't been without sin either in this.
