>>41661093>there's probably thousands are girls just like her thereThis logic always falls for two reasons:
1) It doesn't take the issues of the viewer into account.
2) It doesn't take into account that the person being crushed on is in some ways special.
A lot of what makes people fall into parasocial relationships is their own issues. Maybe they can't actually support a real relationship economically or emotionally. Maybe they're a shut-in. Maybe they don't want a real relationship. You can't simply assume that it's simply a checklist; that's not how people work. One of the hardest things in any kind of relationship is determining whether your judgement of someone else is due to that person or due yourself.
Segwaying from that, it's also not true that you can "just" find someone like that. Not only will they not be the same, they will also have baggage of their own kind; it's not like it's going to signify any kind of effort, in some ways it might mean more pain than just withering away without ever getting anything, and that pain might be precisely the kind of thing the person with the crush might want to avoid. It's not like you can just fish a perfect person from the ocean. You already have memories attached to this particular person too. More importantly, being considered special and being recognized is the area of a personality's work. It's really stupid to say they're just like anybody else. That's the last thing THEY want to hear.
