>>2747533You could try to do what I'm doing:
1. Accept my feelings for my Oshi cannot be categorized as "romantic love", but as "admiration", since I've never held a personal conversation with her. It may sound like splitting hairs, but it's an important distinction to make: yeah, if I actually met her, I'd fall for her in a heartbeat, I know that. Her personality is what makes me feel this way. But by keeping the distinction, you make sure not to screw yourself if you do meet someone, because next comes...
2. Work on improving yourself. Do it for your Oshi. Learn a skill, get jacked, whatever, just set goals - but make sure they're realistic. I didn't know that a thought process like "if I ever meet her, I would like her to meet the best version of myself possible" could motivate me so much, even if I'm very much aware the chances of that actually happening are infinitely close to zero. But you know, even if it never does happen, I'll still have that hard work to show for myself, so it would in no way have been a waste.
If this is the hand we've been dealt, the only thing we can do is transform it into something worthwhile.
