>>41365889Best of luck man. I think there's really no other way to tackle your problem than putting yourself out there and just trying to meet new people (not just to date) in general with the mindset of "let's just see where it goes, if it works, great, if not, no biggie, on to the next one." It's why the normalfag first date of choice is usually a coffee date, very little financial and emotional investment and meant strictly to see if the other person is someone you will get on with on a basic level. Even if you don't get a gf you can at least get IRL male and female friends, which will both make you happier and increase your relationship prospects, especially if you make female friends. In the meantime try to observe the normalfags in social settings and see not only what they say, but how and when they say it. They do things unconsciously so they will never be able to explain exactly how they do things, so it'll take lots of active effort on your part to make up for that. How you say things is the difference between "charisma" and "sperginess."
For girls though, in my experience, generally the more body contact with you, the more animated they are in terms of body language, and the more laughs = the better. Approach a girl in an appropriate social setting with the mindset of just trying to chat and have some fun, not to date. Clubs, organizations, teams, and classes are great for this because the mutual connection is already there. See if they're keeping constant eye contact with you, giving more than one word or one sentence answers to things, making body contact with you (e.g. leaning in to you, jostling you around, slapping you on the back, high fiving, hugging, etc.) laughing at your jokes and stories, talking in excited tones, making animated gestures like playing with their hair. If you've seen those, try to subtly bait whether they have a bf or not, and if not, then go for it, make it simple like a coffee date or getting some food at a cheap restaurant. There are mega extrovert girls who do these things with everyone though, for them you should see if they treat you differently than the other guys they'll inevitably be surrounded by. This could be something like you being the only one she'll cheekily make fun of.
It's unimaginably complicated and what works for one might not work for the rest, hell even male normalfags and chads themselves make jokes about the female enigma all the time.The other piece of advice that guy told me that really stuck is that you should try to treat every failure (not even just with women) as a learning experience and a funny story to tell the next person who comes along; I've noticed he's much happier and confident this way, and it really shows in how well he gets along with people.
