>>74132731while beerpals are always supportive, they're usually quite dismissive of her actual self-flagellation. for instance, if she complains about something because of her perfectionism they'll mostly just go "nah" instead of engaging with her actual complaints (even if they are being fully honest and sincere). which is a hell of a lot easier said than done. i'm a lurker for life but I'd probably try asking things like "why does it need to be perfect?" or something. important part is that if she offers a legitimate enough reason that you gotta back off and offer support with "you'll do better next time!" or something.
