>>100724940For me it's less them knowing her for a week and instead they see her a a cheap fuck, I see something more. But I'm the one getting punished for it, like if I didn't have that mentality I would be perfectly happy. It's a fucked up system that essentially punishes you, while the guy who just saw a whore got what he wanted and the woman consented to it.
My issue is pretty simple. I don't want to be that guy, I actually like the idea of romance, commitment, soulmates, etc. I don't want to be someone I'm not, to have a shit relationship with a woman I ultimately don't like or respect. But that mentality is also stopping me dating becuase hookups are so common and obviousl we have differentt morals and I just can't respect people who do hok ups. I either become a person I hate, or keep living alone and hope I meet someone I connect with, but have a high chance of never finding anyone. Both options suck and I striaght up envy my ancestors, my grandfather was a miner, he married my grandmother in their 20s and both lived together until their 80s, no affairs, no breakups, no history of arguments or fighting, they genuinely loved one another and they were just normal, working class people. They get that relationship and now for me it seems out of reach, fuck I'm already older than they were when they were married with kids and I'm fucking single. The biggest difference in their succes and my failure is the culture/time we are born into.
Also like you said it leaves you with trust issues, so I'm also sceptical of people who have a history of relationships, because surely at that point they are numb ti it and feel nothing and could leave you at the drop of a hat.
God I hate modern relationships. Jut don't take an ex back, we can get fucked over but we still have self respect and I don't think any of us are so bad we deserve to be used as a backup plan.
