Yes, your """""oshi""""" doesn't care about your feelings. They simply see you as a walking deracinated ATM machine who will never have any wife or children to take care for. They know you aren't beholden to any community or institutions. They know that you will be loyal to them even if they obviously abuse your goodwill. They don't respect you because they know you're a loser who will never amount on anything. EN chuubas are notorious for neglecting their fanbase in favour of their own selfish desires. This is why you see them openly admitting their lovelifes. They even dislike the idea of you seeing these people as your virtual friend. They don't see you as a human being. To them, you're just a text with a dollar sign attached to it. They always get preachy about not falling into parasocial relationships not because they worry about you but to excise that lingering voice of conscience telling them what they're doing is morally reprehensible. These people should be seen as what they are; e-beggars with an anime avatar sucking what's left of your human spirit.