Hololive are supposed to be idols, or at least idol-like. You're not supposed to think they're your girlfriend, that's just a warped Western perception of the culture. The point of an idol is that they're meant to be enjoyed by everyone who is willing to be a fan, not for (You).

If you're in it for the GFE, indie vtubers are your ticket. They are the actual desperate ones who crave attention and WANT to be groomed. The best part is, you might actually have a chance of personally getting closer to her, but good luck competing with the other schizos in her chat. I implore anyone who feels 'betrayed' to take the indie pill before you get burned harder by people who are in it to be entertainers.