>>48343909>>48343988>>48344158Women are programmed for pleasure. It’s just society’s built-in misogyny that throws a wrench in biology’s plan for them.
Ask anyone who's married or in a relationship of more than a few years: long-term commitment is HARD.
We’re not meant to mate for life. There is a growing array of scholarship debunking the myth of monogamy as our natural state. in terms of human history, we just invented monogamy like, five minutes ago, because we went from hunter-gathers to landowners. Before that, we lived communally and children were raised by the clan.
After the advent of agriculture, men realized that they had to know the paternity of their children to pass on property rights. Thus, monogamy was born a mere 8,000 years ago. Romantic love came way after this -- the concept was invented in the 17th century. Up til then, marriage was a merely a business contract.
Some of us marry people we’re not sexually compatible with because we don’t value our own sexual needs enough. We buy into the heterosexist view that women must partner up with strong providers, ones that will make good dads, etc. We’re unconsciously parroting evolutionary psychology's conventional view: women are meant to be monogamous, bring up the babes and thus propagate the species, while men are meant to spread their seed. The underlying assumption is that women aren’t really into sex.
Often the one you lust for will not be the one you want to have a conversation with in the morning. When we know the difference between love and lust and find someone that stimulates both mind and genitals it’s all kinds of magical, but this confluence is extremely rare.
