>>84611211The double standard exists, but there is a valid reason for that.
Fundamentally, women have much less problems finding a sexual partner than males, so they have much less reason to search for alternative ways to find said partners.
As such, you buy much more easily the idea that when someone like Sora stalks her fans what drives her is not anything malicious, but rather curiosity in what sort of people are her fans.
An ugly, crazy menhera doing the same would come across as a dangerous stalker, because you can't help but think that they may have ulterior motives, and this unfortunately extends to males.