/uoh/chuuba's crash course in early detection of controlling, manipulative, cruel, abusive viewers No.91393099 Report >Pay attention to how they react to delays or boundaries
If they freak out when you don’t respond fast enough, demand constant contact, or sulk when you say you’re busy, they’re testing your limits.
>Watch for pushy requests for personal info
Early attempts to pry into your private life—like pressuring you for intimate photos, personal data, or financial details—signal they’re not respecting your comfort zone.
>Spot the pattern of playing victim
If they endlessly complain about everyone else online—exes, “haters,” former friends—and never own up to their part in any conflict, they’re working to get your sympathy and paint themselves as the good guy.
>Check for tone shifts when anonymous
Look at how they act in group chats or under different usernames. If they’re super sweet in private DMs but snarky, rude, or hateful in public forums, you’re dealing with someone who’s just playing a role for you.
>Notice relentless flattery or love-bombing
If they shower you with compliments or say “I’ve never felt this way before” way too soon—especially without having met—you’re probably dealing with someone trying to hook you before showing their true colors.
>>How to test for these viewers before they have a chance to turn nasty
>Set a Mild Boundary
For example, say, “I can’t chat right now, but I’ll message you tomorrow.” See how they react. A mature person respects that. A manipulator might guilt-trip, become sulky, or accuse you of not caring.
>Politely Disagree With Them
Push back gently on a small topic—something not too personal or heated, like a movie or a trivial opinion. If they respond by trying to shame you, dismiss your viewpoint, or get unduly defensive, that’s a red flag.
>Delay a Response Intentionally
Don’t reply immediately and see what happens. A stable, respectful person will understand and wait. An insecure or controlling type may send multiple messages, demand an explanation, or become passive-aggressive.
>Refuse a Minor Request
If they ask for something small (like an extra photo or a more personal detail), politely say no. Their response will tell you a lot. Respectful acceptance is good; repeated pressure, whining, or anger reveals entitlement.
>Observe Their Reaction to “No” More Than Once
Give them a light “no” at different times—regarding schedule, topic, or involvement in a certain conversation. Patterns matter. If they consistently try to override or shame you for setting limits, they’re not someone you want in your life.
