Alright, considering this girl is getting so thoroughly dogpiled ITT, I'll give her some sympathy.
>OP anon got scammed
I don't think this can be denied given the evidence in the thread. I don't think the course of action of asking for refunds and/or cutting ties is objectionable either. In fact OP should absolutely do this.
However, I think it's reasonable to claim that she probably didn't intend to go into this being a lazy scammer. What's likely happened here is she made a series of pretty understandable errors:
>First; she set some kind of "silly high tier dono goals" on her memberships and other places without costing it or thinking it through
This is a classic mistake vtubers make. All "scamathon" stories start like this - people set unrealistic rewards because they underestimate themselves and think it'd never happen. Generally corpos help vtubers avoid making such stupid promises, but sometimes shitty corpos instead make their talents feel like they have to do *something* to hook whales, and this sort of thing is all they can come up with.
>Second; she decided to cope and try her hand at delivering the goals when she wasn't really comfortable with it instead of immediately apologising and returning the money. Or at the very least so they don't waste more money until they can be sure they can deliver. Again, there was no fixed plan or timeline for these things, because she didn't expect it to happen.
This invites severe procrastination into your workflow. "Maybe I'll feel more up to getting through that stuff next week". It also associates the resentment of doing these shitty tasks with your biggest donators, making you subconsciously resent them too. That resentment is dangerous stuff for an entertainer. But she works for a corpo, so she's probably not authorised to approve refunds and if she asks the managers they'll probably make her do naked dogeza, so this one might not even be her fault. I don't know her corpo.
>Third; she didn't offer a refund when OP contacted her. Instead she made further promises she probably should've known she couldn't keep from experience by that point.
Timeloop of error 2, but with higher stakes now. Every problem you don't deal with always comes back worse. Again, might be forced into being unable to refund. But she had creative alternatives such as simply compromising on quality - top paypigs would probably be happy if the work was trash so long as it felt like you at least tried. Alternatively you could negotiate to swap them out for other rewards you are comfortable with; "would you be okay to substitute the ASMR for xyz?" Again, most paypigs would probably be okay with this so long as it seems relatively comparable in "effort" and attention given.
>Fourth; she conflated the discomfort/ick she got from the anon OP's general behaviour with the discomfort anyone would get from getting called out for shit they knew they fucked up on in her response to OP.
Makes you look like a total lolcow trying to evade responsibility when you tell someone chasing you up on contracted work to fuck off because they're making you feel the ick. They're separate issues, keep them separate. I don't really begrudge people for having a poor handle on the sources of their feelings though, that's actually hard to identify.
Basically I think this situation is just sad all around. Hopefully you get your money back, and hopefully she learns from this totally avoidable disaster. I do think it's pretty understandable she ended up fucking the OP over, but OP absolutely shouldn't back down so the lesson actually sticks so she can improve. I don't think anyone should trust her with up front payments for a while, but blasting her for being a "lazy whore" is pretty uncalled for. This sort of series of compounding blunders are pretty common in any workplace. It's generally part of management's job to identify and tardwrangle this shit early and put a stop to it before it blows up.
It's a case study everyone in the industry, from consumers to corpo suits, can learn from.
